11/1/09

DOSTI.........

The most sacred and pious word in this holly shit world is "DOSTI". no one can feel the true meaning of his/her life without this word.

It is an in-depth relationship combining trust, support, communication, loyalty, understanding, empathy, and intimacy.
These are certainly aspects of life that all of us crave.
Being able to trust and relax with your friend is a big part of friendship.
Remember when you were young and went with a friend to her grandma's for the week-end. It was fun but when you got home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax now."
That's what a friendship should be.
You go out into the world and do your best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and tribulations. You charm and you perform.
Then you come "home" to a friend. You can relax, put up your feet; you are relieved. If you still have to be charming and/or performing, it's not a relief.
Friendship is a comfy situation like home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax and sigh, "Ahh, home."

                     But no one can form a friendship until he/she realizes that the basis of being friends is meeting the needs of the other person. One must be a friend to have one.
Never forget that friends relate. Relating is the basis of friendship.


BUT it is not always a happy- happy relation.There's a dark part too


Entering into a friendship opens the door for hurt and harm; a harmful friend or a toxic friendship can be one of life's hardest relationship tribulations to forgive and forget. Toxic friends often come back to haunt you for a long time.
There are nine main types of toxic friends--those people whose friendship hurts you eventually. Knowing the categories of toxic friends helps you avoid them. Unfortunately, though, becoming friends is risky and there is never a guarantee you will not be hurt by a toxic friend.
The User
This person only has friends as long as he/she can use them for some purpose or goal of his/her own. This person could be the most harmful of toxic friends.

The Betrayer
Nothing hurts more than a friend who betrays you. The betrayer is truly a toxic friend.

The Control Freak
The control freak is a friend as long as she/he is in control. The control freak often seems to be helping you. Refuse that help or break that control and find out what toxic friendship really means.

The Judging
Ever judgmental, ever critical, this friend can erode your self-esteem. The judge is a fault finder. You can rarely do anything completely right with this toxic friend.

The Promise Breaker
This person rarely does what he says he will do. If you have a date, your toxic friend is often a no-show. A general lack of dependability makes this person a toxic friend.



The Self-Centered Person
Self-centered people can't think of you as they are too busy thinking of themselves. They make toxic friends.

The Competitor
The competitor is always looking to be "one up." Although some competitiveness is normal in friendships, too much competition makes a toxic friend.

Again, no can always avoid a toxic friend. But often to be forewarned is to be forearmed.
The Leaner
The leaner is a very needy friend who 
clings and may be at your doorstep every day. He/she usually wants all of your time and jealousy often enters the picture in this friendship. 




dosti, for me is a jazba without which......you cant be a true Man..........

2 comments:

himanshu bhardwaj said...

"Dosti" ....for me its a big chapter of life that gives your life meaning and teaches us to be real human being otherwise there will be no difference between human beings and animals.

Unknown said...

ya......well said himanshu...:)